I Blame Social Media.

At first I thought social media was a good thing. You are less likely to lose touch with your friends and family and you can even find those that you have lost touch with and gives it another try in a relatively safe medium. I thought it would be wonderful to have a network of friends to share your triumphs and life changing events with. I don't think that is what they are any more.

More then anything they seem like a dumping ground, things that should and used to be resolved between two people get plastered all over home pages. Reputations are slandered, sides are taken, friends are lost and all because two people post their issues instead of dealing with them like calm rational adults. It may be easier at the end of the day to slander a person but this is not the way to go about it. I really believe that if you have an issue, deal with the problem or ignore it. Throwing your negative energy out into the world does not fix it. We all know that, even the people that are guilty of it know that. Just STOP.

Another thing I found interesting about social media was the ability to share inspiration, humor, and interests. I think that's great but more often then not people get wrapped up in how wrong some humor is, use inspiration as excuses, and slam the interests of others. I will get into these a little bit more.

Telling someone what they find is funny is wrong...is wrong. You might as well tell them they they don't deserve to exist because they think cats doing silly things are funny. What is it about humanity that makes us all so sensitive. My humor might not be for you...in fact it's probably not, but that does not mean you have to judge it. You don't even have to look at it. I'm not saying that you should not express your opinion. I'm saying that you should stop telling people they should burn in hell every time they think something is funny and you don't.

Using inspiration as an excuse. Let me explain. Saying I am capable is inspirational. Saying just because I am capable does not mean I can handle it is an excuse. It's also very confusing. I have seen a post that paraphrased is 'Sometimes an independent woman needs help'. OK yes. At some point every one needs help, and no not everyone asks for help. So sure that's true, but I don't see an independent person posting that. I see dependent people wanting to make themselves look better post it. It's weak.

Slamming interests. Again it is okay to have an opinion but it seems that no one realizes that we all like different things. We are a creatures of variety. What gets my interest is completely different from what gets yours. Don't get so offended. I am talking to everyone. I'll use religion vs anti religion as an example because it's such a hot box. To the religious, you're right not everything fits into your religion...but not everyone celebrates your religion. Get over it. You can't tell us what to believe because you know what you believe. The word of the day here is believe. Please look it up. To the anti religious. Unless someone is coming at you you have no right to tell anyone what not to believe. I might actually write something more on this topic alone. In the meantime just STOP.

I love my friends and I love my family. Someday I hope that the social media becomes something I enjoy again I really do. In the meantime I am skeptical and use it to the barest of minimums. That does not mean I love you less, it just means that I don't want to destroy my perspective of you through what you post.

Addendum 6/13/2021 - To the anti-religious you do not have the right to tell people what not to believe but you do have the right to defend your right to believe or not.

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